Comparison - The Thief of Joy
Posted on March 20 2020
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt
Who do you most frequently compare yourself to?
Models? Celebrities? Friends? Enemies?
What about yourself?
I compare myself the most to my past self.
Even though I have had plenty of bad times throughout my past, I seem to constantly be comparing myself now to myself from the past. Does that make sense?
I compare myself in a big way (pun intended) from my body now to even my body 2 or 3 years ago. I feel that it is vastly different and not in good ways. I compare my emotions now to what they have been in the past as well as just my life in general. My outlook on things now are not what they once were.
The older you get the more you realize what is important in life and the more responsibilities you have. When I look back on what was important to me in my early twenties, I almost feel jealous in a sense or like something has been taken away from me. Get it? The days of feeling comfortable in my own skin and stress free (for the most part) seem long gone and I feel as though I am always wishing them back.
That is not to say that I don't love the things in my life now. I have the most amazing husband that I could have ever wished for, a beautiful home, a job (2 actually, lol) a loving church home, 4 adorable pups & many close friends and family. Though even with all of these wonderful things in my life - I still find myself feeling empty. Why is that?
I believe a lot of this has to do with comparing myself to my past self AND to other people. In this day in time - social media HAUNTS us every day with images of perfect bodies, perfect lives and the disillusionment that someone can be happy 24/7. We see photos & videos that make us envious and feel that our lives are paled in comparison. That just isn't realistic.
I myself need to work on not comparing myself to anyone or anything - on the internet or in real life. I find that I am not able to work on myself or the things in my life that I would like to change if I am obsessing over how I should try to be like someone else.
I am very unique, quick witted & quirky and there is no one else I know that is like me! I am going to try to hold onto that mindset from here forward & see where it gets me. I am going to try to cut back on mindlessly scrolling through social media as much as possible and unfollow any people or pages that might make me feel insecure. I will follow more pages or people that help me to feel more motivated or self-loving. I will remind myself that other people's "outsides" can never compare to my "insides." I will be grateful for the good in my life & resist any lies that yell "It is not enough!"
What are some ways that you will try to cut out the comparison on your own life?
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